The greatest flaw in our thoughts about marriage today is that we think our best room for improvement lies in the weaknesses of my spouse. We have the idea that when we address these weaknesses in each other then we will have a happy marriage. Unfortunately, this will not necessarily be the desired outcome; in fact, it might have a detrimental downward spiral in your marriage and change the script you are writing for your marriage.
The truth is that the biggest room for growth and development in your marriage lies in the areas of the strength of your spouse. By celebrating and supporting your spouse’s strength it will create the optimal environment for growth in your marriage. This way of thinking acquires a difficult paradigm shift for most married couples. Many couples must first develop a new skill where they learn how to disregard negative toxic thoughts about their spouse and develop thoughts that will support and celebrate their spouse’s strengths. These changed thoughts will help you to change the script that you are currently living.
Guard your thoughts about your marriage because they will affect your discernment, affection, and behaviour towards your spouse. This in return will influence the narrative of your marriage script.
Our thoughts are much like a flower garden; the seeds must be sown intentionally but weeds grow automatically. It is a constant fight to keep the garden free from the weeds for the seeds to grow. The same work is needed to keep your thoughts free from negativity that limits your spouse and to believe the best about your spouse.
Love is a safe place of shelter for it never stops believing the best about your spouse. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. Love refuses to believe any thought that will bring hopelessness and despair towards your spouse. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. Love never fails.
Love will help to write a new script for your marriage.
